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What are the best wheels for a 4×4

Wheels are considered as one of the most essential part of any vehicle. So, it is very important for a vehicle owner to make sure that they buy the right wheels for their vehicle in order to have the best driving experience. Moreover, it is very important to buy good quality wheels so that it lasts for a much longer period and you are saved from the harassment of changing your wheels every now and then. You need to know that the 4×4 wheels online are becoming more and more popular these days. There is no vehicle which is better equipped for to get through during the winter season than the 4×4. The 4×4 offers a much better handling, grip and response. Actually, this is something that is much needed to get through during the windy and wet winter. Moreover, if you have to visit any rocky area then you won’t find it difficult to drive your vehicle if you are having 4×4.

Before buying the wheels for a 4×4, you need to know what are the best wheels for a 4×4 so that you can buy the right wheels. There are many online stores that have been selling a wide variety of 4×4 wheels. So, you can have a look at them and go through the features thoroughly so that you can figure out what are the best wheels for a 4×4. While buying from an online store, it is very important to make sure that you are buying from a reputed online store. Though there are whole lots of online stores that are selling various types of 4×4 wheels, however, the reputed ones would only provide the best quality 4×4 wheels that would be the right one for your vehicle. They have highly experienced and trained people working …

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Best places to buy sneakers in Australia

If you are wondering what are the best places to buy sneakers in Australia then you need to know that the best places would always be the online stores because if you are buying them online then you would be getting a whole lot of benefits. The first benefit of buying a sneakers or any other thing online is that you get to view a wide variety of things from all over the world at the comfort of your home. Moreover, the online stores offers huge discounts from time to time which makes the products a lot more affordable for a large number of people.

 

While buying sneakers in Australia from an online store, you need to make sure that you are buying them from a reputed online store. Though there are many online stores available nowadays that are selling a wide variety of sneakers, however, all of them aren’t reliable and capable of providing good quality sneakers at an affordable rate. So, you are required to make sure that you invest some time and effort in finding a good and reputed online store that is selling a wide variety of sneakers at affordable rates.

 

Before purchasing the sneakers from an online store, you also get the chance of reading many customers reviews. You need to know that you would easily find many customers reviews at the online websites. After reading those reviews, you would be able to determine whether they have been providing good quality sneakers and whether they have excellent after sales services. The good and reputed online stores would always make sure that they do care for their customers. They also have an excellent customer support team that is always there for serving their customers. So, if in case you are having any kind of …

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Tim’s Story

This is a parent story from a father in the US.

I am the single parent of DW Trantham, a 14-year-old male to female transgender activist.

First off, I will tell you that DW was born a girl. She did not at any time like boy’s toys or clothes. I assumed, early on, that her female tendencies meant she was gay. At that time, I was unaware of even the term “transgender”……

Click here to see the  full article at the Personal Stories Project…

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One year on – a tween ‘transition’

It has been a year since I gave my 11 year old child my consent to change her name.
I imagine that most parents would think changing the name they chose for their baby would feel like a very big deal, but at the time it was the lesser of the many concerns I was desperately working to wrap my mind around. You see my daughter didn’t just want to change the name that was on her birth certificate. She wanted me to see her as she saw herself, and acknowledge that her gender wasn’t the same as the sex that she’d been assigned on the first day of her life, and which had been printed in black ink on that same document, ‘MALE’.
Last year I chose to finally really hear her. I chose to believe that she knew who she was – that she knows herself better than I do, and better than the doctor who looked between her legs at birth and said ‘It’s a boy’. I needed to trust that she knew her gender identity in the same way that her identical twin brother knew his. I had slowly come to the realisation that I never questioned or doubted her brother in knowing that he was a boy, as his sex aligns with his gender identity. There was an obvious double standard in the way I responded to them.
It wasn’t an easy decision – it had been coming for years, gradually building momentum, until the day came when I breathed in deeply and acknowledged that this wasn’t ‘just a phase’ as I’d hoped it would be, that I couldn’t make her fit in a boy-shaped box, and that to do so would be unkind and potentially very harmful for her. But I could love her, …

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Rosana’s Story

My name is Rosana, I live in Sydney’s Inner West, and I’m the proud mother of a gender diverse young person. I am keen to share our story because my child’s journey has not been straightforward, even by trans* standards. I hope that in telling our story it helps all parents of trans* kids, but I especially want to reach out to those parents whose children do not present or ‘come out’ as typically ‘male-to-female’ or ‘female-to-male’ trans-identified.

My child, Oliver, or Ollie as we mostly call him, is 16-years-old and identifies as a ‘genderqueer’/transgender person. If you’re new to this, bear with me, I’ll explain the terminology as I go on. Suffice to say, for now, that Ollie is a ‘female-to-male’ young trans* person.

Nonetheless, Ollie is the kind of kid that resists labels, and in his case, the most prominent feature of their gender identity is ‘NOT GIRL’. The pronouns we use for him are ‘he’ and the gender neutral pronoun ‘they’, as Ollie is a non-binary gendered person, who does not identify completely as either male or female. I am trying to describe my child as they feel themselves to be in order to show other parents that not all children fall neatly within the male/female divide. Some kids, as do adults, identify somewhere on the gender spectrum other than the absolute opposites of male and female. That’s where the ‘genderqueer’ term comes in. Ollie ‘queers’ gender by identifying mostly as male, but not entirely. However, he does prefer to be ‘read’ as male, prefers a male name, male or gender neutral pronouns, male clothing, hairstyle etc, but may wear the odd girlish thing, like a flower in his hair, or occasionally even a skirt, although these things are never worn in a feminine way. There is

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Tom’s Story

I have long had the belief since I was very young, and growing up in a country that wasn’t my original home land, that to get through life you shouldn’t make waves or rock the boat and stay below the radar.

Since having children this philosophy has been changed. My wife and children have taught me that there is no shame in being who you are. If you want to dye your hair purple, green, pink or all the colours of the rainbow, you should, without the fear of being judged or bullied or victimised or being outcast. Unless what you are doing is compromising the safety of others and yourself, then you should be who you are with no reservations.

People need to get a real perspective on life. We need to be able to celebrate life in all its diversity not be fearful of the different or unknown.

I have watched as both my children have achieved above and beyond what I thought they were capable. I have watched as my daughter left home and through health issues and minimal employment, made a home for herself and her partner. I have watched my son, in front of a large unknown audience, bare his personal struggles with life as he has been dealt out and come through with his head held high and confident in who he is.

I owe my family a debt of gratitude for opening up my eyes and mind into believing that, no matter who you are, if you are a good person and have sympathy, tolerance and compassion for every other good person out there, you should be able to walk through life without fear.

Life is too short to think that your way of seeing things is the only way. That society says …

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Catherine’s Story

Catherine’s Story

When my daughter was growing up it never crossed my mind that she had any issues with her gender. I have no stories to share about her insisting she was a boy, no stories of my struggles to persuade her to wear girls clothing, no stories of how she was a tomboy or played on the boys soccer team. I have nothing like that to share. My stories are of a beautiful and creative little girl who loved her princess dolls, her My Little Ponies, her coloured hair clips, bows and fairy wings and the silver glitter star she made into a magic wand.

It was never on my radar that my daughter could be transgender nor that one day when she was in her early 20’s our lives would be turned completely upside down. I cannot remember clearly how my daughter told me he was a boy, or whether he used the word transgender. The panic that I felt at that moment thinking there must be something terribly wrong with my child has wiped some of my memories of that day. But I will never forget the anguish I saw in my sons face. I knew whatever he was struggling with, it was massive.

I didn’t know what I should do and I turned to a diagnostic manual which at that time was the DSM IV. I looked up gender and I came away worried that my son could be suffering a disorder and be mentally ill. I saw a psychologist specialising in gender issues and I told her about my son and how he behaved and dressed like a girl. But I also told her about the distress my son felt during puberty, his anxiety and discomfort with his female anatomy and of his breast binding. …

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Lisa’s Story

Lisa’s Story

My name is Lisa, I have two children, the youngest being a 19 year old transman.

I had suspected my child was transgender from an early age, the signs were small but enough to concern me. I became more concerned as my child approached puberty, I had the talk, “You know your body is going to change, are you ok with that?”. I even taped an Oprah show on trans kids and showed my child to see if that sparked any conversation, but no, it didn’t. Puberty was early, around 11 years of age and awkward. By the age of 14, my child came out as lesbian. I remember that conversation well because of my stupid response, “Oh thank goodness. I thought you were going to ask for a penis”. I was thinking being lesbian is easier than being transgender.

1 year later, that stupid statement came back to bite me when my child told me that the issue was indeed gender. Even though I had suspected it for years, I still went into panic, he was about to start year 10 and I felt that transition would be easier after school, if I could just hold him off it would be safer. Not much was said and I sort of just sat on it for about 6 months. I ended up with a very unhappy child. He did all the research online as to what to do and where to go, came to us with the information, and so the journey began.

I was so weighed down by fear in the beginning, it was hard to function. My husband seemed to have a better grip on it than me but his mind didn’t think as much about the negative things that occupied mine, “will my child be

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A Principal’s Story

Written by a primary school principal in Tasmania, 2015:

Ensuring our school is inclusive : The experience of one primary school.

As an inclusive school our student’s transition from male to female has not been a big issue.

Our school values of Community, Acceptance and Respect ensured that she is accepted for who she is and she is included in all aspects of school.  She uses the female toilets, (I was prepared for some opposition to this and have had none at all) and is accepted as a female by all students, staff and their families.

Open and honest communication between school and the family leading up to and during the transition period was essential.   Through reading, watching YouTube clips and documentaries and talking with staff at Working It Out (Our local Safe School’s Coalition service provider) I gained a better understanding of some of the issues our student and our community might face.  So together we brainstormed solutions to likely issues. Not one of those or any other issues have arisen.

On the first day of the year we had a 3 hour Professional Learning session run by staff from Working It Out. Our whole staff attended, (Office, Facility Attendants, Teacher Assistants and Teachers) that includes all part time and full time people.  We paid for part timers to attend if it wasn’t their work day. Some of our regular relief teachers attended in their own time.  It gave everyone the opportunity to receive the same information, ask any questions including sensitive questions, and have a common understanding and a common language.  At the end of the session everyone felt that they would be able to respond to comments or questions from children or adults.

Including a student who is transgender has not been an issue for our school …

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Efro’s Story

Well, it was on my 16th wedding anniversary,  that I decided (with Skyler’s blessing) to inform my parents about their eldest grandchild. So I rang them and when I spoke to my dad he as always wished me a happy “university”… I said it feels like I have been in university lately as I am learning something new everyday..

We had a laugh then I asked to speak to my mum, because telling her is going to be so much easier than telling my old fashion father who came to Australia from Cyprus when he was 21 years old.

So with my mum on the phone, and tell her she better sit down, and then I begin to explain about her eldest grandchild, my son Nathan who is 15 and as everyone in our family has known has been battling with anxiety and depression on and off for the past 5 years, which has lead to a sleep disorder and not be able to attend mainstream school for the past 2 years. Seeing his psychology regularly, we have been through the anger, smashing of windows, knives pointed at us, suicidal thoughts or thoughts of killing everyone else, it has been a rough few years but lately it seems it has calmed a bit with lots of help from his psychologist.

A few months ago, (October 2014) Nathan wanted to see his psychologist without me which I thought was great showing he is growing up dealing with his psychologist on his own etc. anyway my parents and family knew all this, what my mum didn’t know was that a month ago, after confiding in his psychologist Nathan informed me that he also felt like a girl, that he is transgender, and wants to be able to dress like one, he then …

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