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New Book Release: ‘The Transgender Teen’

This book has been recently published (available here online ,and at other online and retail bookstores), which may be of interest to some parents – ‘The Transgender Teen’, by Stephanie Brill & Lisa Kenney’. Note: It’s a follow up to the excellent ‘The Transgender Child’.

‘What do you do when your son announces he is transgender and asks that you call her by a new name? Or what if your child uses a term you’ve never heard of to describe themselves (neutrois, agender, non-binary, genderqueer, androgyne…) and when you didn’t know what they meant, they left the room and now won’t speak to you about it? Perhaps your daughter recently asked you not to use gendered pronouns when referring to ‘her’ anymore, preferring that you use “they”; you’re left wondering if this is just a phase, or if there’s something more that you need to understand about your child. There is a generational divide in our understandings of gender.

This comprehensive guidebook helps to bridge that divide by exploring the unique challenges that thousands of families face every day raising a teenager who may be transgender, non-binary, gender-fluid or otherwise gender-expansive. Combining years of experience working in the field with extensive research and personal interviews, the authors cover pressing concerns relating to physical and emotional development, social and school pressures, medical considerations, and family communications. Learn how parents can more deeply understand their children, and raise their non-binary or transgender adolescent with love and compassion.’

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Laurie’s Story


Next month we will celebrate the third anniversary of the day my son officially became my son. The day I finally, sadly, let go of my much-loved daughter and accepted my no-less-loved son. The fact is, I never had a daughter, not really. In his mind, he was always a boy, trapped in the confusing and inappropriate body of a girl.
I can admit now that when he first told me he was “he”, I was not only completely devastated, I was a complete idiot. I was so utterly ignorant of what being transgender meant that I didn’t hesitate to give him a long list of ways in which his life would be completely destroyed if he “chose” to do this.
Like that would be helpful to him. After he had spent years agonizing over the exact same thoughts. Fortunately, he was amazingly patient with me. And it took a while, but eventually I got on board and launched myself on a very steep learning curve. Here are just some of the things I know now that I wish I’d known then:
Being transgender is not a choice. Well, duh. Just like being gay is not a choice, it’s the way you’re born. I was stupidly slow in coming to this realization, but it’s blindingly obvious now. Trans people choose how and when to come out, whether it’s at six or sixty; they don’t choose to be trans.
Being trans is not equal to being gay. Gender and sexuality are two completely different and unrelated things. As the saying goes: sexuality is who you go to bed with, gender is who you go to bed as.
Being trans is not a tragedy. Back then, I ignorantly assumed it would …

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Gender Help For Parents’ signs LGBTI Groups Joint Statement on the Plebiscite

‘Gender Help For Parents’, whilst primarily an information and support service for Australian parents and carers of gender diverse kids, also engages in advocacy when we feel the need to speak up on behalf of our kids and our families.
In keeping with our desire to protect our families from the potentially harmful effects of a plebiscite, which includes the ongoing ‘debate’ surrounding marriage equality (which already has resulted in our kids being targetted, as well as the services that have proven beneficial in supporting them), we have signed the following LGBTI Groups joint statement on the plebiscite’ created by Australian Marriage Equality : http://www.australianmarriageequality.org/2016/09/14/lgbti-groups-joint-statement-on-the-plebiscite/
We ask the Australian Government to scrap the plebiscite plan and more towards enabling a free vote in the parliament.’…

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New Resource List for Queensland

This resource list has been prepared by a parent in Queensland, and generously shared so others can find local services easily.

There will also be more details to come on regional support services.

Queensland-Resources-A4 – Printable copy of the Queensland Resource List in PDF Form

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New Australian Standards of Care and Treatment Guidelines

Australian Standards of Care and Treatments for Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents now available in PDF Form : Link

From the Introduction:

The Australian Standards of Care and Treatment Guidelines (ASOCTG) aim to maximise quality care
provision to trans and gender diverse children and adolescents across Australia, whilst recognising the
unique circumstances of providing such care to this population. Recommendations are made based
on available empirical evidence and clinician consensus, and have been developed in consultation with
professionals working with the trans and gender diverse population across Australia and New Zealand
from multiple disciplines, trans and gender diverse support organisations, as well as trans children
and adolescents and their families. They have been endorsed by the Australian and New Zealand
Professional Association for Transgender Health (ANZPATH), the peak organisation in the region
actively promoting communication and collaboration amongst professionals of all disciplines involved
in the healthcare, rights and wellbeing of people who identify as trans or gender diverse.
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